everyone needs a little love sometime

the key to a healthy child emotion development is praise, love, encouragement and guidance. these are all based on my personal experience and thoughts. these simple words are easy to spell and said but its so tough to carry out. its just like the simple saying of "forgive and forget". TOUGH... it is very tough...

after a cut, any normal human's flesh will form a scar. it will remind us of the cut that we once had. so how can we forget? but becuz we can't forget its really really hard to love, praise and encourage. rather scolding, screaming and criticing seems to be much easier.

i am gulity of such terrible actions too. although i love this dear relative of mine, i tend to be a little harsher to her. maybe i had been angered by her too many times? or maybe she is too much like me?

after coming out to the ward for attachments, i realised that there are way too many type of people in the world! normally those bossy or stupid (2 very exterem groups) people, in my point of view ought to adjust themselve to be more average (normal) like the rest of us. could it be me being more mature or more tolerance? i now think that these people are fine as they are. they function perfectly fine too. everyone has a different role to play in the society afterall.

if a kid isn't too smart in school does that means he/she will never make it in the society? i don't think so. cuz the future is way too unpredictable. if a woman is bossy and ugly will she never find true love? never! everyone seems to be able to find that someone in their life. maybe a little later but there will always be hope and chance. (well of cuz sometime such woman reject those chaps and thus remains single forever...)

so what i am driving at is that we should give our love ones some space to realise their own potential and decide for themselve the path that they want to embark on. showering them with praises, love and encouragement when they achieve something good. (even when it may not be the way we wanted it to be)

i hope i will be a good mummy next time if i ever have a kid. thinking of that makes me wonder should i really want kids? what is the main purpose for them to born to the world? *sigh* i am so negative, ya?!?!